Ive divorced the narcissist, I have custody ages 8,10,12 Knowing?
No. Leave them out of the bickering. If they ask you about ANYTHING daddy says" you tell them: mommy and daddy are working on things, but we both love you. THAT'S ALL. Mommy why does daddy say bad things about you? You tell that child Mommy and Daddy are working on things and we both love you. Mommy, daddy said you're a and then fill in the blank why does he say such mean things? You tell the child again Mommy and Daddy are working on things and we both love you. I don't know why daddy says the things he says you want to keep this vague. Please don't damage your child by dragging them into it or forcing them to take sides. You do everything you can to never badmouth your ex or his future choices of women or anything about him you never say anything negative. Trust me I've been through this, when that child grows up they will see things through adult eyes and they will learn what is going on until then, they have no idea and they're young mind cannot comprehend the ins-and-outs of adult relationships. Keep them out of this.